She Said What She Said : Gabrielle Union v. Social Media
Why do we shy away from expressing sexual experiences and what we prefer in the bedroom (or outside the bedroom)? We, as a society, crave the truth but cannot handle it when it is too real. We cannot handle it when it is truth coming from a woman. We cannot handle it when it is coming from a woman of color. Society is quick to judge women of color who speak on sex and relationships if it is not within the parameters of what many deem socially acceptable.
An example: Mrs. Gabrielle Union-Wade
After watching Gabrielle Union's interview on Sway's Universe, addressing her childhood and sexual experiences/reciprocation and facing issues of race and sexual assault within her life and in the industry of acting; I agreed with her on many points that she made. Moreover, I understood that she was speaking from her perspective and not everyone will agree with her. It does not give people the right to bash or criticize her for expressing her truth.
One of the topics in her interview which received the most controversy was on her statements about sexual liberation and as a woman to not be afraid to reciprocate oral sex to her male partner. In addition, being completely honest with the youth when it comes to sex education. I believe as adults we are free to explore what we want, and express it as freely as we would like. There is no reason for anyone to shame Union on her expressing what she has done, or likes to do. I commend her for being so brave and speaking on a topic many shy away from, or will not be so honest about. "Sexual gratification should include BOTH partners. Women shouldn't only be givers", said Union. So what is there to argue? There is nothing wrong with reciprocity (and that was her point) and if you disagree then you've been doing it wrong. She said what she said.
I think sometimes people forget that celebrities are human too and they are entitled to like what they like. I feel her point was to stress how important it is to explore, enjoy, and reciprocate with your partner in order to fully enjoy the sexual experience, to not be afraid, to be vocal about what you want and express that to your partner.
She is a grown ass woman and all of ya'll judging and criticizing have some growing up to do. Be grown enough to speak on it, be grown enough understand.
"Judgement about sexual gratification is what keeps people sexually repressed & having uneven sexual experiences." -- Gabrielle Union